How to Get the Groom Involved

By October 15, 2019 Ruthe Tuesdays

He finally popped the question! You couldn’t be more excited! The thrill of announcing your engagement to all of your friends and family sets in. But now it’s time to start wedding planning! A lot of brides can’t wait to start this season of picking out colors and vendors. Some brides even have zero problem with taking all control over this process. But you want to make sure your fiancé has a hand in it too. After all, it is a day to celebrate both of you. Plus, you could use the support in wedding planning that is quickly proving to be overwhelming. Ruthe is here to share some easy ways in which you can get your man involved!

1. Help with the guest list
This can be an obvious one. You need to make sure your fiancé is inviting his friends and family to the wedding. Communicate with his parents as well to make sure you don’t miss any extended family on your list. You, your fiancé, and both of your parents should have a generally equal amount of guests. If his family is inviting more than your wedding budget can handle, this is when your man will need to step in. Have the conversation early on with both sets of parents on what a realistic head count will be for your event.

2. Rehearsal Dinner
Traditionally, the rehearsal dinner is financially covered by the groom’s parents. If you plan to go this route, it’s a good idea to let your fiancé know in advance. Communication is key when it comes to budgeting and planning the event. You can even give your groom specific tasks that he can coordinate to make sure the rehearsal dinner runs smoothly. This not only takes a load off of your to-do list, but it involves him in the wedding details.

3. The Guys
If you plan on including a wedding party into your big day, your fiancé needs to find groomsmen. To create an even-looking ceremony, it’s also important that you and your groom have an equal amount of bridesmaids and groomsmen. This means one of you might need to add or subtract a few from your side of the wedding. After he has selected his groomsmen, your fiancé can also take charge of finding gifts for his friends. This is a kind gesture for the men who have committed to stand by him at the wedding. Don’t let him forget to say thank you!

4. Vows and Speeches
“Through sickness and in health!” Just about everyone can recognize these lines from the traditional wedding vows couples have opted to use. Nowadays, we are hearing less and less of this. In current wedding trends, couples have decided to write their own vows. This is often seen as more personal and emotional. If you decide you want to join in on the trend, you need to give your groom plenty of time to consider his portion. Allowing him to write his own vows lets him into the wedding planning. Don’t forget about any other speeches you want during the reception that he will need to coordinate as well.

5. Let’s Dance!
Who can forget about the first dance? It can be such a magical moment between couples after just being wed. You may want it to be a perfectly coordinated show with a complicated dance routine. If this is your dream, you’ll want to take a few dance lessons months before the big day. Have your fiancé commit to this fun date idea with you! Not only are you preparing yourselves for the wedding, but you are carving out dedicated time to spend with each other during the chaotic wedding planning season.

Having your fiancé plan your wedding day with you can such a rewarding experience. No matter how you decide to involve him in the process, make sure you are both committing to the vision you have shared for your day.


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